Setting Boundaries

Have you ever thought about the importance of setting boundaries for yourself?

The dictionary defines boundaries as " a line that marks the limits of an area, a dividing line". When I think of boundaries, I look at properties, whether you have a fencing or an hedge, there is a clear line that indicates where your property starts and ends. Any uninvited guest who passes those lines can be called trespassers. If there was no evidence to mark your space then anyone would be allowed to enter at will, invited or not.

What is the real reason for creating boundaries: It is so that there are guidelines and rules in place not only for others, but for ourselves as well. These will help us to determine what we allow or disallow to come into our space, whether it is : personal, relationships or in conversations. It could be as simple as "knock before you enter" or "No, that's inappropriate, or " I don't like your tone".

Whatever your boundaries, be clear on your expectations.

Setting boundaries is one thing, however, it has to be enforced to be effective. The conversation may be uncomfortable at first, but the peace of mind is worth it! It is also important that others know boundaries signify that this is my space, you may not understand, but I hope that you can respect it. Later on, you may decide that those boundaries are no longer necessary and you create new ones, whatever your decision, set them, be clear about them, communicate them. It is part of how we take care of ourselves.

Do you think setting boundaries is necessary, if yes, share your comments below, I would love to hear from you.